Lust always makes you feel like you've tasted the rainbow; just like skittles. Being in a lustful relationship only looks pretty for a while until you realize the skittles are sour screamers. I remember when I was in 'lust' for a very long time, simply because there was a void I needed to fill. I remember grasping at anything that seemed to be love and so, lust made me fall in "love" many times.
Things always started great. Compliments almost everyday, open and constant communication, random lunch dates, sex seemed sweeter because you would have to 'theif ah chance and then you regret and cry because you felt dirty after. Love doesn't cause you to regret; love brings joy and fulfillment when you share it purely. Even when things don't work out in true love; it doesn't bring resentment and regrets like lust does. Lust is an imitation and false advertiser of love.
My husband taught me how to love. Even though he felt the consequences of my addiction to lust; he loved me. I mixed the two up for a very long time. I always felt the need to fill the void, anybody that said 'I love you' meant it; love is a verb. Love cannot be spoken it must be expressed. Society has taught us how to lust and not love. I believe that if we were taught to love; relationships would last much longer than they do today.
Love doesn't cause you to compare nor does it make you feel like you made a mistake. Love allows you to see perfections in imperfections. Love doesn't cause you to hide your affection. I remember when I had an affair with this guy and he said to me one day ' remember I am not yours and you are not mines' so you cannot see me often and don't tell people we know each other. Now tell me was that love? No...We were just lusting over each other and so ended up in an affair; not a relationship. The end result after the affair came to an end was that I hated every bone in his body. I took me a very long time to let go of the resentment I had for him. You know when you are in love because you want to spend quality time together other than sex, you get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing, you want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.He or she motivates you to be a better person and you want to get to meet his or her family and friends. Lust causes you to totally focus on a person's looks and body.You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.You are lovers, but not friends.
I learned this after I almost lost two of the most important things that mattered the most in my life; my self-worth and my husband. This is where the reality hit me, the skittles wasn't sweet no more. God in his perfect ways, used my husbad to teach me what was love. And my relationship with God grew, I experienced HIS love and so lust, has become my biggest enemy. I smell lust from a distance. The love of God cannot be compared to any and it requires true relationship.
Today, I find myself sharing my story with other women and sometimes men, who are trapped in the deciet of lust. I have seen lust destroy marriages, break homes, destroy friendships and crippled morals and values. Lust doesn't care about heartbreaks or morals and values. But if you really want to taste the rainbow; develop a relationship with God.